I have been thinking a lot about perspective recently and what kind of things I might tell my younger self if I could go back in time and give a little bit of advice. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, it makes you realise a lot, but makes you question whether you’d change anything if you even could in the first place. I truly believe that all life experiences, whether good or bad, really shape who you become and it’s never too late to set yourself on an alternative path. Looking back on time that has passed, makes me realise all the things which have changed, and some of which have stayed the same. Life moves quickly, yet time moves slowly – just make sure you’re living the right one.
You will never stop over thinking things, it’s part of who you are and although sometimes it will get the better of you, some days you’ll realise there’s a fine line between over-caring and just being a worry that won’t even amount to anything. You’ll spend countless hours on the bathroom floor shaking with anxiety and trying to figure out a way to calm yourself down, breathe.
You’re too critical of yourself. No one else is holding you back but your own self-belief. Tell yourself you’re good enough, you can do it, and you are.
You’ll spend endless hours trying to figure out how to fix your rosacea. It can’t be fixed, it’s always going to be there, and you’re just going to have to get better at make up. But for goodness sake, figure out a good skin care routine, it’ll help.
Don’t feel ashamed about not being a big drinker, it’s okay to abstain at times, if anyone judges you for it then they’re not worth their time. Staying in on a Saturday night in your PJ’s watching a film or having an evening with friends will be much more enjoyable than forcing yourself to drink so you can pretend to be enjoying a night out in a hot cramped nightclub.
You will spend years trying to figure out what you want to do, sometimes we never find out, but know that what you’re doing right now – you’re good at it, and you will be successful in your career. Even if you did start out as a vet, a nurse, a teacher – life isn’t about your career.
Don’t let people walk all over you. You’re better than that and you’re a fierce little lady at heart.
Stop rushing to grow up, before you know it you’ll be much older and looking back at all the things you didn’t do and you’ll regret it. Seize the opportunities when they come your way, live your life for yourself.
You’ll make new friends and lose old friends, life moves on. Those worth sticking around will.
Every person is a teacher. You will learn from everyone that crosses your path. They are all there for a reason.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You don’t have to do everything alone.
And finally, things always get better and tomorrow is a new day
What advice would you give your younger self? Would you change anything?