We’ve all been there – stalking through someones Facebook profile seeing all their happy photographs, sharing achievements, the graduation photos, the proud parents photo, the ‘look what I bought thanks to my great job’ photos. We all strive to be more, bigger, better. As an only child there’s a certain expectation upon yourself that you have to go far, and that you better not mess anything up. Be the one that goes to university, gets an education, gets a good job, get’s a house, lives happily ever after. But are we ever really happy?
As a super organised person I always have people say things to me like ‘oh you’re so lucky you’ve got everything so together‘. Those posts on Buzzed and Pinterest like ‘how to make it seem like you’ve got your life together in ten easy steps’ where apparently having rice and pasta in jars (I totally do) means that you do have things together, and that because of that you should be happy, just because it looks like you’ve got your life sorted out.
But I’m not always happy, and I can’t help but wonder, why. We’ve grown up in a generation of do more, be more, be whoever you want to be. But sometimes, it doesn’t matter how much you do, if you’re always striving for more, are you ever going to be happy with what you have?
I graduated from university over two years ago now, moved to a new city I get to call home, worked my absolute ass off working for next to nothing as an intern, and living on beans on toast for literally a year just to make rent, which in the end landed me a good paying, stable job, which allows me to live life a little more comfortably. But I still don’t feel satisfied, I can’t help but see what everyone else is doing and wonder how my life would have been different if I did the same, or if indeed they look at my life and wish that we were the other way round.
My point is, it doesn’t matter where you’re heading, or what you’re doing, but appreciate what you have for living in that moment. If you spend your life wishing what you’ve never had, you’ll never be thankful for what you do have. And it’s ok, because everyone feels a little bit lost sometimes.