Why it’s Okay to Feel Lost in Your 20s

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We’ve all been there – stalking through someones Facebook profile seeing all their happy photographs, sharing achievements, the graduation photos, the proud parents photo, the ‘look what I bought thanks to my great job’ photos. We all strive to be more, bigger, better. As an only child there’s a certain expectation upon yourself that you have to go far, and that you better not mess anything up. Be the one that goes to university, gets an education, gets a good job, get’s a house, lives happily ever after. But are we ever really happy?

As a super organised person I always have people say things to me like ‘oh you’re so lucky you’ve got everything so together‘. Those posts on Buzzed and Pinterest like ‘how to make it seem like you’ve got your life together in ten easy steps’ where apparently having rice and pasta in jars (I totally do) means that you doΒ have things together, and that because of that you shouldΒ be happy, just because it looks like you’ve got your life sorted out.

But I’m not always happy, and I can’t help but wonder, why. We’ve grown up in a generation of do more, be more, be whoever you want to be. But sometimes, it doesn’t matter how much you do, if you’re always striving for more, are you ever going to be happy with what you have?

I graduated from university over two years ago now, moved to a new city I get to call home, worked my absolute ass off working for next to nothing as an intern, and living on beans on toast for literally a year just to make rent, which in the end landed me a good paying, stable job, which allows me to live life a little more comfortably. But I still don’t feel satisfied, I can’t help but see what everyone else is doing and wonder how my life would have been different if I did the same, or if indeed they look at my life and wish that weΒ were the other way round.

My point is, it doesn’t matter where you’re heading, or what you’re doing, but appreciate what you have for living in that moment. If you spend your life wishing what you’ve never had, you’ll never be thankful for what you do have. And it’s ok, because everyone feels a little bit lost sometimes.

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Welcome to The Little Things, a Scottish travel and lifestyle blog. Written by Louise, a graphic designer, living and working in Edinburgh. Sharing all of the little things in life which make her smile along the way. With her boyfriend Luke, and their cat Gizzy.

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  • Aaaaaamen! I've been feeling like this a lot recently, not really having a job gives you a lot of time to think about how rubbish you are at having your life sorted out haha. When I think of the big picture (getting a good career, being able to buy my own flat etc etc) I just want to curl and and cry because it all seems so far off for me, but in my day-to-day life things are probably the best they've ever been. So I think you're right, when you focus on what's happening now you can really appreciate how good life is, and the big things will just happen when they happen so no point worrying about them. xx

  • i feel the same way a lot of the time, i'm in my mid twenties and still don't know what i'm doing. i definitely try to live in the moment and take each day as it comes πŸ™‚

    danielle | avec danielle

  • I think a lot of people could benefit from taking time to appreciate what they have. It's something I've learnt the hard way by having my life turned upside down by chronic illness. Before I was so driven on work and success I never really stopped to see how much joy can be found in the small things, or really appreciated them. I'm thankful I can see that now, although I still find it so hard seeing my uni friends working for top designers traveling all over the world knowing that I was as good as them and better than some. Still we all have our struggles and just because it looks like someone's doing well doesn't mean they're facing troubling times. Support, love and appreciation for the small things is what life is about.
    Emma Xx

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